Answer. Jennifer, your ex-husband used to tell you that you were boring? You did the right thing when you divorced him! Very soon you will see that you are a quite interesting interlocutor. This is the first thing you could say to a man: «I am very interested in your opinion about this one particular problem.» You can add flattering (but true) words explaining why you need expertise of this very man. «I’ve heard of you as a very sensible man», «I’ve read your article», «You’ve helped me not even knowing about it», etc. When you use words like this, the other person will become interested in you right away. More than that, he will be listening to you with affection.
After that you can tell him what is really important for you. Then your eyes will be glowing and you will be radiating this positive energy. At the end of your story you should repeat again that you want to know his opinion. Don’t forget that a man will value not your words, not the price of your clothing or jewelry but your energy. So you can talk to him about small things but with passion.
Question 8. I am afraid of men
I am afraid of men. I am lost when I talk to them. What can you advise?
Answer. Any fear is scared of the one who can face it. And here is a specific piece of advice: be the first one to start a conversation with men every day. Soon you will understand that they are harmless, they don’t bite – they simply buzz around.
Confidence is the sexiest quality of a man (by the way, the same applies to a woman). Nature tells him to pass the best genes to his offspring. That is why women instinctively choose the best ones. How do you determine that he is the best one? It is especially difficult to do from the first sight. Yes, you look at how tall, handsome and rich he is. Yet the main all-encompassing sign is how confident he is.
If a man acts with confidence, you start thinking that he knows something about himself that you don’t know. It means that many other successful people already highly appreciate him.
Question 9. I can’t start talking to men I don’t know
I can’t start talking to men I don’t know. I have already learnt how to smile at them, but I still can’t talk. I probably feel good only when I am alone. When I leave this comfort zone, I subconsciously want to get back in.
Answer. It is important to understand what you actually want. If you want to be alone (why not by the way!), then why would you even need men to talk to? If you understand that you can’t be happy without a man, then I recommend to practice talking every day. You start with some insignificant and simple topics. At first, you talk to men you know well. Then you talk to men you know just a little bit. And finally you talk to men you don’t know at all.