Answer. I think your mistake is that you give more than you take. You make three steps toward a man and he makes only one step toward you. This is what too compassionate and kind women constantly do. There is this simple rule: when you stop running away, you stop being chased. Practice, try it on somebody and then share your results! You show that you are dependent and interested too much. At the end of your date you could say: «And now it is time to say good-bye, because I wanted to meet with you only this one time.» It is very likely that after that he will not want to leave you alone! You need to know men’s mindset. You need to use this simple principle: love a man less than he loves you. Act as if you have a lot of other options. What you lack is confidence. And males, just like females, choose confident partners. It happens this way because nature tells them to pick out the best ones, to procreate.
Imagine that you see a man for the first time. How can you tell that his children will be good, or if you put it in crude terms, that he will be a good breeder? Firstly, you look at his appearance. Secondly, you look at how confident he is. If he is confident, it means that he knows many good things about himself. Right? Men think the same way about women. If a female is confident, it means that she is in high demand among males. If there are many males around her, it means that she is a good female. Look at your life. This logic always works. I had a relationship with a very smart and reserved man once. All of his outbursts of feelings toward me were happening when he would see me surrounded by other men.
Say good-bye and that you are not interested in having a relationship – this is to use in an emergency when you really do need a man for a one-night stand but you don’t want to be humiliated. Even here you show him your confidence as if you are implying that he is worth spending only one night with. At the same time, you shouldn’t humiliate him. He just has to first ask if you are going to see each other again. This is when you, with a meaningful smile, answer: «Maybe.» And you don’t run to him at his first whistle. So the main thing is that you should be confident in that you are wonderful in all things. The next question though is where to find this confidence.