, November 18, 2015: www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/11/how-to-get-better-at-expressing-emotions/416493/.
«шепот снаружи»: Quindlen, "Public and Private."
Я излила душу в посте: Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook post, June 3, 2015: www.facebook.com/sheryl/posts/10155617891025177:0.
откровенный разговор о тяжелых событиях: Обзор см. в: James W. Pennebaker and Joshua M. Smyth, Opening Up by Writing It Down: How Expressive Writing Improves Health and Eases Emotional Pain (New York: Guilford, 2016). Больше подробностей в главе 4.
люди нетрадиционной ориентации, вышедшие из семей иммигрантов: Anthony C. Ocampo, "The Gay Second Generation: Sexual Identity and the Family Relations of Filipino and Latino Gay Men," Journal of Ethnic and Migration Studies 40 (2014): 155–73; Anthony C. Ocampo, "Making Masculinity: Negotiations of Gender Presentation Among Latino Gay Men," Latino Studies 10 (2012): 448–72.
«Худшим было одиночество и та изоляция»: Emily McDowell, цит. по: Kristin Hohendal, "A Cancer Survivor Designs the Cards She Wishes She'd Received from Friends and Family," The Eye, May 6, 2015: www.slate.com/blogs/the_eye/2015/05/06/empathy_cards_by_emily_mcdowell_are_greeting_cards_designed_for_cancer_patients.html.
Эмили придумала «карточки эмпатии»: http://emilymcdowell.com/. См. также: Kelsey Crowe and Emily McDowell, There Is No Good Card for This: What to Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love (New York: HarperOne, 2017).
«Когда в вашей жизни случается трагедия»: Tim Lawrence, "8 Simple Words to Say When Someone You Love Is Grieving," Upworthy, December 17, 2015: www.upworthy.com/8-simple-words-to-say-when-when-someone-you-love-is-grieving.
3. Платиновое правило дружбы
классические эксперименты с громким шумом: David C. Glass and Jerome Singer, "Behavioral Consequences of Adaptation to Controllable and Uncontrollable Noise," Journal of Experimental Social Psychology 7 (1971): 244–57; David C. Glass and Jerome E. Singer, "Experimental Studies of Uncontrollable and Unpredictable Noise," Representative Research in Social Psychology 4 (1973): 165–83.
Когда люди страдают, им нужна кнопка: Brian R. Little, Me, Myself, and Us: The Science of Personality and the Art of Well-Being (New York: Public Affairs, 2014).
Есть два типа эмоциональных реакций: C. Daniel Batson, Jim Fultz, and Patricia A. Schoenrade, "Distress and Empathy: Two Qualitatively Distinct Vicarious Emotions with Different Motivational Consequences," Journal of Personality 55 (1987): 19–39.